Becoming Part Of The Solution
Why do you want to help cancer patients?
- To fight against the conventional system?
- To tell your clients and friends what they do wrong?
- To convince your friends and clients, against their will?
Of course NOT!
You want to help people. You wanted to become part of the solution to a health crisis that is spiralling out of control and you know the only way to accomplish this is through qualified and comprehensive education and guidance.
Your goal is to change the dynamic of your client’s relationship with their cancer. From the cancer being in control, to your client being in control.
How can you do this?
Lose the negativity. It is all about what they can do right now, not what they did in the past. You change someone’s perception of a situation by extracting value from it. This eliminates feelings of shame and punishment for past actions and focuses on what they can do from now on. The brain is most active when adapting and learning from mistakes. Using the right words and giving the right information, draws out endless possibilities and gives the client the freedom to self-direct their life and choose their course of action.
Words to avoid
- why didn’t you
- should have
- could have
- need to
Words to use
- from now on
- moving forward
- you might like to try
- next time
- given this new information
Ask your clients questions about what they might like to do rather than telling them. Educate them on the benefits of eliminating gluten from their diet and dignify them with a request to make a change.
e.g. Susan, would you like to give up gluten?
If something needs to be done, give options such as choosing a time frame.
e.g. Susan, do you want to stop eating gluten this week or wait until the beginning of next week?
When a client is told they ‘have to,’ this creates resistance, reluctance and resentment.
In clear, simple language, teach your client the evidence behind your recommendations. This will turn the ‘have to’ into ‘want to.’
How to establish a coach/client relationship
The coaching/client relationship only works when a client is confident in their coach and believes that they can help than and that they care.
Words that take away hope, are insensitive or sarcastic, will destroy the relationship. Describing a situation as hopeless or unattainable causes stress and creates imbalance. You may not be able to fix or change and outcome but you can always say what needs to be said with compassion. Excessive negativity will give negative results. Focus your attention on providing information and guidance.
Be attentive. Listen more and talk less. A good coach recognizes where a client needs help and guides them on the path of self-discovery. There are many levels of healing, the physical body being only one of them.
Do not exaggerate. Drop words such as amazing, awesome and mind-blowing from the coaching/client vocabulary. Exaggerating descriptions and results is misleading and inaccurate and may lead to negative consequences.
e.g. The PEMF device is amazing. You really need to get one.
In the mind of a client who is unfamiliar with the PEMF device, this may translate into ‘cure.’
Educate your client on the importance of an oxygenated, active immune system and how this can be achieved with the help of the Pulse Electro Magnetic Frequency device. The client is then able to make an informed decision to purchase if they so desire.
Challenge existing beliefs. Teach your client to check their responses for emotional accuracy.
e.g. I cannot afford the precision medicine testing that you recommend. It is too expensive.
Ask your client the question, is that true? Listen to what the client says and their word choice. Then ask the question, what is true? Again, listen to what is being said. This leads to the question, what would you like to be true?
Encourage them to not respond using repetition or memory of past events. Keep them in the now. Stack the emotional deck in their favour by linking benefit after benefit. A coach can suggest possibilities enabling the client to formulation their own plan. Finding a solution makes is doable, instead of depressing and out of reach.
How to be a great coach
The coach is a teacher and a student. Continue to research and learn from proven resources.
You are NOT to diagnose, provide treatment or prescribe medication or supplements. It is not about how smart you are or how many big words you know. It IS about providing your client with accurate information using terms that they understand and guiding them to the medical professionals and support people who can help them to reverse their dis-ease.
The coach is not the player. They do not score the winning goal. They are a valuable member of the team that help to provide the means to make a BIG WIN possible for the client.
How do you know if this coaching program is for you?
All Truly Heal Coaches have a story to tell about how their own path them lead to Truly Heal. They either had or have their own cancer episode, they try to help a loved one or simply feel the need for change. What is your story? What motivates you to help those in need? If your cause is big enough the how will take care of it's self.
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